A friend of mine and I were talking and the topic of conversation went to being single. I have been asked a few times if I get lonely. And usually my answer is no. I always say that to me there is a big difference between alone and lonely.
I actually like being on my own. I don't have to answer to anyone. I enjoy my privacy, I don't cook if I don't feel like it and just have leftover or a bowl of soup. I go anywhere at my own pace and time. I don't clean if I am a bit lazy. A friend once told me she is tired of being alone and lonely. As I see how she lives her life, I am not surprised. Once in a while I would call to ask her if she wants to go out and her usual answer is no. Yet she complains a lot. I don't think she has a lot of friends and lately I have not been in touch as I do not want to be responsible for her happiness.
I try to go out with a friend at least once a week and that is my choice. We either go to dinner and do a bit of shopping or go for a walk and have coffee or hot chocolate on our way home. A few times we just hang around at my place or their place and chat and experiment on making different cocktails.
Right now the close friend I go out with for dinner is on holiday in Ottawa. Another friend just got married and is moving to Rocky Mountain House.
I like to stay home especially if I have had a stressful week at work. Just like this past week. I slept in, had a bath and did some preparation for planting for next weekend. I keep busy and have no time to be lonely.
Very well said. I think my dad likes living on his own too.
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